Missed The Mark I generally like Dr. Phil. I’ve never watched an episode, but what I have seen appears to be a calm, caring man with a heart for others. While researching a topic on blended families for our next book, I came across this video. Naturally I had to watch. This is big-time syndicated television after all. While I completely agree with what Dr. Phil said about pre-marital counseling, I do not agree with his position on discipling children as a non-biological paren
Alone At Last I once had a friend who went away on a long anticipated weekend with her husband. She told me how much her husband looked forward to the weekend because they had neverbeen away alone. Because she had a child from a previous marriage, everything they’d ever done their entire relationship revolved around family life. Her husband planned this trip, took care of all of the details, made arrangements for caring for their three little dogs, and drove them off on a Fri
An Unattainable Benchmark I’m not sure there’s any verse in the bible that’s more daunting to write about than Proverbs 31:10-31. The first time I read it, I remember thinking, “Yeah, I don’t think I’m going to read that one again.” As a twenty-something-year-old woman, that verse was intimidating. How could any woman live up to those standards? But now, as a mumble-mumble-something-year-old woman, I have a very different understanding and appreciation of the verse. My husban
Look, In The Sky Iron Man does exists. Actually, Iron Men do. God confirms it through Solomon’s writing of Proverbs. Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.
Proverbs 27:17 Over the last few months God placed a burden on my heart for the condition of man. I’ve written several straightforward articles about spiritual obligation, adultery, absence and the general failure of men to stand the gap where marriage and family are concerned. “I searched for a man among them w
Shocked How many of you were as shocked as I was by Lysa TerKeurst’s blog post last week? I can raise my hand high in response. I was more than shocked. But not because Lysa announced she was divorcing her husband of almost twenty-five years because of repeated infidelity and substance abuse. But because her writing was so full of hurt, devastation, numbness, and the rigid control we (as women) strive to have when our lives are spiraling out of our control. I recognized her.
The News My wife shared an article about divorce with me written by Lysa Terkeurst, the founder of Proverbs 31 Ministry. We’re both big fans and followers of her site and social media platforms which reach about 40 million people. It empowers women and family, and is a wonderful resource for all. I’d say that prior to Lysa’s June 13th article, Rejection, Heartache, and a Faithful God, she, her life and marriage were the standards by which millions of people measured their own
The Loss For some odd reason the moment the calendar flipped to August 1st, I began to think about, okay, almost obsess that in another month, it will be one year since my dad had passed away. During this entire season of loss, not once had I cried, felt the crush of his absence or the natural squeeze of grief. Trust me, it’s not because I’m too tough, or that I didn’t love him. He and I were almost identical in attitude and actions, so although it caused friction at times, I
Just then, as Pilate was sitting on the judgment seat, his wife sent him this message: “Leave that innocent man (Jesus) alone. I suffered through a terrible nightmare about him last night.”
Matthew 27:19 Why don’t men listen to their wives? Is it genetically encoded, or just a cultural practice to ensure man’s place at the head of the household? There is a difference between listening and waiting for them to stop talking so you can finish the conversation. I fully realize thi
Bombs Away Earlier this week, someone messaged me a meme of a Susan B. Anthony quote that said, “I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.” The person went on to say she saw it on a “friend’s” page and that it felt directed toward her because she and her husband have recently made life changes that came about as they grew closer to Christ. It so happened that their relationship with this “fr
When I met my husband,Gregg, he was a 34-year-old divorcé with no children. Despite having no desire whatsoever on my part to even date, much less get married again, within hours of meeting we were talking about getting married. Plain and simply, God just works in peoples’ lives when He has a plan. Having experienced it in droves in the timing and way I met my husband, I will testify to it. So, here I was, a mother of a 4-year-old daughter, long-distance dating a man who no