Dating Your Spouse: Blue Marriage: Remember when you’d walk across glass to get a glimpse of your sweetie? What happened? Okay, don’t ever forget what it was that drew you together. Now, do that more often. Here are just a few of the benefits of being in Love #1. Physical Changes – Love has physiological effects on your body. Chemical levels such as dopamine, testosterone, norepinephrine, histocompatibility complex (MHC), and Pheromones shift. These are all positive benefits.
Sex In Marriage: Blue Marriage God’s design for sex is a lifetime of pleasure and delight. Sex should be something we enjoy and look forward to in marriage. In a healthy relationship, there is effort and forethought given towards sex to make it fun and pleasurable. However, Satan’s ultimate goal is that we will be ashamed of our sexuality so that we won’t talk about sex with our spouse. The good news is, you don’t have to live a life full of frustration, shame and rejection.
Can a Day be About Just One Thing? A Veteran’s View As a Christian, I regularly attend worship services. During one such time of worship on a Sunday morning in November, the pastor decided to recognize the fact that each eleventh day of that particular month is also a day that our nation sets aside to recognize and offer gratitude to our veterans. Legacy of Service I should also inform you, dear reader, that I am a veteran. Among the living in my family I can also state that
Can A Day Be About Just One Thing? A Veteran’s View As a Christian, I regularly attend worship services. During one such time of worship on a Sunday morning in November, the pastor decided to recognize the fact that each eleventh day of that particular month is also a day that our nation sets aside to recognize and offer gratitude to our veterans. Legacy of Service I should also inform you, dear reader, that I am a veteran. Among the living in my family I can also state that
The first business day after the New Year is commonly called D-Day (Divorce Day). It’s the busiest day of the year for people to call their attorneys and start divorce proceedings. The holidays are hard on a lot of people and families. Believe me, you’re not alone. It was Christmas when I thought my marriage would end. When everything I thought I’d known about myself, my husband, and our marriage had turned out to be a lie. It was Christmas when I put a smile on my face that
Great is Thy Faithfulness… I‘m a private person, despite the fact that I have a very public life. There are aspects of my first marriage that I’ll never discuss with anyone but my husband. The main reason is because I have children who love their father, and I want to honor that. I will say that my first marriage wasn’t a healthy one. I didn’t learn how unhealthy it really was until I went to counseling during my divorce. I was only fourteen-years-old when I met my first husb
“…Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Some of the best advice for married couples is given above. Resolve an issue and your angry emotions before nodding off for a good night’s sleep. However, oftentimes heeding that advice is as easy as licking your elbow. Being a believer, I admit my bias. I don’t think one can resolve one’s anger issues, occasional inappropriate outbursts, or angry passive aggressiveness without the lens of Scripture and a proper theolog
Anniversary It’s a special anniversary. It’s been 500 years since the Protestant Reformation, first marked by Martin Luther when he posted 95 theses on the Castle Church in Wittenburg, Germany. The arguments were generally characterized by criticism of the excesses of the Roman Catholic Church. The work proceeding from the Reformers elicited five famous Latin phrases and convictions: Sola fide:faith alone Sola scriptura: scripture alone Sola gratia: grace alone Solo Christo:
The Comedian The speaker at our Gateway Church service was comedian and actor, Michael, Jr. who showed this Nobel prize winning photograph during his message. My first thought was, Why? He’s a comedian after all. But I knew why. I don’t remember one joke that had me grabbing Leah’s arm while rolling around in my seat laughing. What I haven’t been able to forget is this image. The Point That’s a little girl who had almost made it to a food bank before collapsing. The vulture i
Look, In The Sky Iron Man does exists. Actually, Iron Men do. God confirms it through Solomon’s writing of Proverbs. Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.
Proverbs 27:17 Over the last few months God placed a burden on my heart for the condition of man. I’ve written several straightforward articles about spiritual obligation, adultery, absence and the general failure of men to stand the gap where marriage and family are concerned. “I searched for a man among them w
Where has God led you lately? Did you know you were being led? Did you follow or resist? God will take you to some pretty unexpected places if you allow Him. Recently, He took me to a place I didn’t want to go – Forgiveness. Scott #Forgiveness #Family #Forgive #Prayer #God
4 Reasons For Pruning People From Your Life What… Ever said anything that made all the sense in the world to you while you were saying it? Have you ever discovered that your creative quote really didn’t make any real sense at all? Try the word pruning instead. Yeah, we’ve been there. I used to talk about smashing goals in crime reductions while still a Chief of Police. I liked the analogy of running the 100 yard dash with a parachute tied to our backs, and still breaking reco
The Loss For some odd reason the moment the calendar flipped to August 1st, I began to think about, okay, almost obsess that in another month, it will be one year since my dad had passed away. During this entire season of loss, not once had I cried, felt the crush of his absence or the natural squeeze of grief. Trust me, it’s not because I’m too tough, or that I didn’t love him. He and I were almost identical in attitude and actions, so although it caused friction at times, I
Imbalance Recently, I shared a personal situation that had me chained down over the last year. Failing to pray forgiveness for certain siblings left me shackled to sin’s floor. But before, “I forgive you,” came from my lips, I needed grace to pour out from my heart. As I’d admitted in the previous article, after nearly a year since my dad’s passing, there was never an opportunity to grieve his loss. The result is numbness. In this void is also an imbalance of emotional respon
This is one of those blog posts that turned into a tough love segment somewhere along the way. Mostly tough love for me. I learned a lot while writing this post. ********************* It’s incredible to look back on years as specific benchmarks in our lives. I was born in 1980. I accepted Christ in 1989. I became a mom in 2001. I quit teaching to write full-time in 2011. Scott and I met in 2013. We married in 2015. These were all years that impacted my life significantly. 201
There’s a new type of child sacrifice that’s overwhelming the west. Of course it’s not the real, physical killing of infants and children that occurred in ancient times, however it’s not even the victimization of children through the rampant divorce rates of the twentieth and twenty-first centuries. Read through to part III to discover the new and influential danger. I. Sacrifice to Moloch—Killing Babes in Ancient Times Can you fathom that humanity once participated in ritua
In my part 1 of this message I felt led to share the biblical experience of the father and son relationship. The intent wasn’t to suggest that all dads and sons fight or fail to have loving relationships. But the reality is, many men do indeed have embedded pain resulting from a failed or strained fatherly relationship. It’s a hard realization to accept or even discover. Men usually brush off anything resembling emotion or hurt. The reality of it is, nothing gets swept away w
The Dilemma Why can’t we get it right? It’s all so seemingly simple. Man and woman copulate, and their child is born. Oh look, it’s a boy, and he looks like daddy. Proud dad smiles, softly strokes his calloused palm over the light blue beanie cap the nurse tugged over junior’s funnel-shaped head, and he feels panic. Boys Need Dad Boys love their mom, but they desperately need their dad. Around 6 or so years old, young boys begin to identify with dad’s personality and style of
Years ago, I sat in a meeting with a new mayor while interviewing to become the police chief. The interview went great and I knew the position was mine. Because of the highly political nature of the position, I wanted to make clear that leading the police department was my priority, and not playing an elected official’s surrogate. “What are your expectations of me as the chief of police.” His reply sealed the deal, “Do the right thing.” If I had to ask or he had to explain wh
“If you saw your family being attacked, would you fight for them?” It’s the one question I really don’t have to ask to know the answer. The reply is always a chest thump and buck of the shoulders, “You know it.” Counter-Reality But the reality is, many men don’t fight for their families. Their wives are being ravished, while children are ripped apart, and still, according to the US Census, 1 in 3 of the 24 million children in America grow up in fatherless homes. While we’re t